No leader is perfect! But the following characteristics contribute to an effective leader :
a. Conveys security and acceptance of own limits; in turn accepts others and helps them feel safe.
b. Demonstrates friendliness, emphaty, and concern for others.
c. Listens carefully for unspoken as well as verbal messages.
d. Insists on freedom rather than perfection within the group.
e. Is capable of using humor kindly and appropriately.
f. Permits dissent from group members.
g. Does not resort to and does not permit blaming or persecution of members.
h. Does not anticipate immediate release from conflict but strives to cope with and gain meaning from the conflict as part of the resolving process.
i. Does not permit himself to be used as a means to an end and does not use others in this manner (manipulation).
j. Does not assume superiority over others.
In addition to the above characteristics you, as the leader, must have a capacity to love, laugh, and cry. Spontaneity must be tempered with restraint; compassion must be combined with objectivity; and assertiveness must be coupled with the ability to listen.
If the above characteristics are present, the leader will show respect to each group member as a unique human being. In turn, the group member will respond to the dignity afforded him and can achieve his greatest growth potential.
References :
Lindeman, Edward, The Meaning of Adult Education. Montreal : Harvest House, 1961.
Wicks, Robert J., Counseling Strategies and Intervention Techniques for the Human Services. Philadelphia : J. B. Lippincott Company, 1977.
